There seems to be a lot of emotion and hostility out there this week. Oddly enough, it's actually NOT directed at me! :-)
Having dealt with my share of haters in the past, though, I'd like to share excepts of one of my favorite posts from Tim Ferris, author of, "The Four Hour Work Week." In it, he shares his strategies for dealing with haters:
1. It doesn’t matter how many people don’t get it. What matters is how many people do.
Let the negative people focus on the other negative people. You work with the people who want to work with you.
2. 10% of people will find a way to take anything personally. Expect it.
You can't please everyone, but you can waste a big chunk of your life trying.
3. “Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity.” (Colin Powell)
Or, to put it another way, if you're not upsetting somebody, you're probably not bowling anyone over, either.
4. “If you are really effective at what you do, 95% of the things said about you will be negative.” (Scott Boras)
The bigger your impact, explains Ferriss (whose book is a New York Times, WSJ and BusinessWeek bestseller), and the larger the ambition and scale of your project, the more negativity you’ll encounter. Ferriss jokes he has haters “in about 35 languages.”
5. “If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid.” (Epictetus)
"Another way to phrase this is through a more recent quote from Elbert Hubbard,” Ferriss says. “‘To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”
6. “Living well is the best revenge.” (George Herbert)
“The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you,” Ferriss advises. “That, and [show] how much fun you’re having!” Ferriss goes on to say that the best revenge is letting haters continue to live with their own resentment and anger, which most of the time has nothing to do with you in particular.
7. Keep calm and carry on.
“Focus on impact, not approval. If you believe you can change the world, which I hope you do, do what you believe is right and expect resistance and expect attackers,” Ferriss concludes. “Keep calm and carry on!”
Haters spend a lot of time worrying about your business, instead of their own. That's their choice and their right. Don't let it throw you off track, though. Keep doing what you're doing... or, as Ferris says... keep calm and carry on!